flhwa.blogg.se - The Five Love Languages of Children by Gary Chapman

Part of a parent’s job description is to cook, clean, carpool, grocery shop, do laundry, repeat.

Acts of Service are the big and little things we do that prove we care.

As kids get older, it’s best for them to help choose their gifts or for the gifts we give to affirm something we know about them.ĥ.

There’s no doubt kids and teens love presents, but they don’t make up for not being physically present and available.

Meaningful Gifts are symbols of love and hold special memories.

Punishments like “time out” or sending them to their room really hurt kids or teens that desperately want positive time together.Ĥ.

A lot of childhood misbehavior is an attempt to get more attention from Mom and Dad, even if it is negative attention.

Spending Quality Time says, “You’re important.

Finding opportunities to affirm kids more than 3 times a day gives them courage to keep going and attempt even more.ģ.

More than general praise, it is specifically pointing out characteristics and abilities that make them one-of-a-kind.

Words of Affirmation call out what’s at the core of each child or teen. Girls who don’t experience physical touch regularly and safely from Dad and others often go to extremes– quietly withdrawing or craving a lot of attention and reassurance from boys in unhealthy ways.Ģ.Boys typically get a lot of physical touch from playing games and rough housing, but it’s important to look for other opportunities too.Physical Touch is the easiest (and sometimes most awkward) love language. So it’s important to discover when and how our children feel loved by us. We can fill their “love tanks” more effectively when we focus on learning each of our children’s unique love language. Every person is individually wired to receive and understand love in different ways. If our childrens’ love tanks are on empty, it will be hard for them to be or do their best, and they are more likely to get angry or act out. They unpack the idea of intentionally filling up our children’s emotional love tanks. Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell suggest we focus on learning and speaking our children’s love language! We don’t need more to do we just need to do some things better. Most of us already feel stressed out and overwhelmed. That seems like a pretty good secret to know.

I got so much out of the podcast, I ordered the book he discussed: The Love Languages of Children : The Secret to Loving Children Effectively. Gary Chapman as a guest on our Parent Cue Live Podcast. Recently we had the pleasure of having Dr. So how do you squelch the anger? There’s no magic pill, but I think it starts with how well we love each other in our families. “Anger’s the most troublesome emotion in family life.”Īll you have to do is scroll down your Facebook feed or flip on the news to realize there are a lot of angry people out there.Īnd if I’m being honest, there are times when anger simmers and wins in my own house.